Jami-Lei recently started reading a book that got her thinking.
There’s a difference between aspiring for something in the future, and predicting it. I read (part of) a book this week called ‘The Visionary’s Handbook’ by Howard Means, Jim Taylor, and Watts Wacker. The book talks about paradoxes and has exercises that help you to think about your own future. On page 16, I found a point that acted as a life lesson: the more we are certain of the details of the future, the more we are likely to be wrong. As a person who likes to premeditate things and predict how a situation will play out, I found this very relevant.
If you could predict a specific dramatic change in the future, would you still take the natural progression toward that same end result? For example, if I found out somehow that in two years I would become a world-famous musician, I’m not entirely convinced I’d put in the same amount of effort to the things I’m doing in my life right now. I would most likely put a lot of things on hold to begin writing songs and practicing for my future career as a superstar. However, there are a lot of opportunities for personal growth and experiences that I would miss out on, because I would be too busy trying to tailor my present to the future. I would have nothing to write songs about, and would have changed my future because I tried to control it.
Whilst we can’t always predict the future, in many ways we try to and by doing so we miss out on valuable experiences that are happening right now. So instead of trying to live in the future, I’ll make sure to have a foot in the present and enjoy not knowing what’ll happen next. Who knows, maybe there is a big surprise I’m not preparing myself for.
As Abraham Lincoln said: ‘The best way to predict your future is to create it.’